IF ALL MEN ARE DOGS.....WHAT DOES THAT MAKE US?

Ladies,

We have all been guilty of calling every man on Earth a dog. Yes, it is true men are known to do some of the most disgusting things. Im sure there are alot of woman upset, and rightfully so, due to cheating, abandonment, lies, emotional and physical abused and just being flat out used. These men are wrong....but what role as the woman in the relationship did we play?

We are playing ourselves. Right now instead of complaining we need to be accountable and realize that these men are only treating us how we allow them to treat us. First of all ladies, we are too quick to claim a man as our man. Just because you prematurely had sex with a guy does not guarantee an emotional attachment. It does not guarantee a relationship. It is so important that we allow a man to chase, court, and commit to us and prove that we are where they want to be. Ladies, we have become the ones that court, the ones that chase....a dog can smell fear and desperation and knows when he has the upper hand. Please believe that a man will play you accordingly to your standard.

How many times have you checked, cursed out, or went to blows with another woman about "your" man? Too many times, I know. Well to be honest if a man has never married you...he has never cheated on you. We cheat ourselves when we think a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is legally binding. When you two do your taxes you claim SINGLE! When you are single you are ONLY accountable to yourself. We are so busy attacking other women for something that isnt either woman's. It is not a man's fault if you allow yourself to believe shacking up is a marriage, or having a child is a marriage, or a measley sexual relationship is a marriage. To all the ladies that only want sex and can detach emotional this blog is not for you. (Although, you are only fooling yourself) If you are seeking a wholesome, happy true relationship and wish to end your bitter rants about men....I guarantee the truth will set you free. Here is an exercise to try and no one will know the truth facts but you.....ask yourself how many failed relationships have you had? This is not the time to point blame or play victim. How many sex partners have you had and how long did it take for them to receive your body? What did they have to do to win your "love"? Seriously answer those questions and begin to see the pattern of your own self destruction that could not possibly be blamed on all men. Ladies, if we want to be treated right we have to demand it of ourselves. We have to set the standard and the man will follow.

My mother used to tell me "Play P#ssy Get F@cked" and I would always think that she was nasty for saying that. But now I realize when we play victim, we get attacked. And when we lay ourselves out like little kittens that need desperately to be stroked will surely be stroked! But that doesnt mean you are going to get anything more. Sex does not and never will equate to love! We as women seeking for something the wrong way...putting the cart before the horse and not having the patience to wait. Let us learn to BE STILL and get to know who we are. Become whole within yourselves before you seek a mate, you have to be able to bring something to the table and baggage wont cut it.

Being a mother is a beautiful thing and an awesome responsibility. However, ladies that are complaining about "baby daddy" issues really need to check themselves. You did not have those babies by miraculous conception, so that means you are just as responsible for their creation as the father. The same man that you call broke, worthless, trifling and deadbeat is the same man (men for some of yall) that YOU let run up in you completely raw and then inject his semen in you. Did he have a career, car, or place to live when you allowed this? No, so why did you expect something different because you decided to have a child with him? Ladies, men that have children already and he didnt marry her or he doesnt see those children....do you think it was a good idea to procreate with someone who is showing you what they are about? You already know when you dealing with a dead beat way before he is a dead beat dad. Be accountable. There must be something about a man that treats a woman wrong because they are getting all they girls. Then these girls finally get over them only to go through the same thing with another future dead beat. We are not even going to talk about how women put the dudes over their own children....well not today.

So, you work, the lease is in your name, and you often give him money to make it through the week.So now you his momma...hmm. Ladies, not only are we shacking up and getting played.....we paying for it too! We claim to be these independent woman only to use our resources to take care of a grown man. Many, many excuses for this one. He getting on his feet, we got a kid, I love him, he would do it for me.....blah, blah, blah. Yes, it is ok to help out your mate but it is a big damn difference than helping yourself look like a fool. A man is meant to lead and care for a woman...not the other way around.

Finally, one man's trash is another man's treasure and vice versa. Ladies, how many times have you been dogged out by a dude and you stayed for years to come and ironically he left you for nagging him about being a dog.....then he suddenly meets a chic and treats her how you have always wanted to be treated. Maybe even marries her. So was this dog reformed or was this dog really a dog to start? A man will treat you exactly how you to tell him to. You tell him you are a slut..slut treatment, needy and desperate...needy and desperate treatment....independent and bitter.....that is how he will treat you. Well ladies, when he meets a woman that will not allow subpar treatment he will treat her accordingly...he will treat her good and not think twice about how he treating you because he believes you deserved.

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