How are you good people? Thank you so much for reading my last post. I had a lot on my chest. Well, today I am having an issue understanding something....the defintion of a friend. Naw, not the buddy you played in the sandbox with, and not your homegirl that takes your weave down for you. You know, the friend with benefits??? Or is it the friend the benefits from sleeping with you? This is suppose to be an arrangement where the two involved are not dating, exclusive, or any type of committment but when the time comes to slap monkeys...they call one another. Ladies, is this really what we have been reduced to? Are we really sleeping with men that not only have no plans to ever marry us but now to add insult to injury wont even put you on the girlfriend list....you are his homie that he screws...when he is available to screw you.
Ok, I know a lot of chics are saying this is the new age way to date and claim they are totally cool with it. Im sure a lot of you are saying that it helps keep your options open and youre able to date other men. Girl please, that man has tricked you so good you believe that bologna he feeding you.
When a woman accepts the role as the friend with "benefits" she is placing herself at an all time low in the man's eyes. Now he has blatantly let you know there will be no relationship and he still gets the goods. Most of the women involved in this seem to think that one day he will change his mind and must have some feelings for you because he is sleeping with you so much. WRONG! A man knows what he wants and it doesnt take him anytime to figure out if youre a keeper. If he wanted to be with you he would commit to you, and sex is not a commitment to a man. He wants your vagina....but tolerates you! If he is keeping you around it is only until Ms. Right shows up and then youre out of the picture. You fooling yourself if you think that you can continuously give your body to man and not want anything else. You will begin to get jealous and want more of his time. You wont get it and that jealousy act will just get you out of the picture faster.
For all you who dont get it, let me explain it to you like a child...
GUY: I dont want anything from you but your body. I will not do anything for you or have any emotion towards you.
GIRL: Ok, I will sleep with you because I believe you will change your mind. My sex is so good that it will make you love me.
GUY: Whatever you say. Your sex is just like the other women I am sleeping with. You can hear what you want to hear but I am telling you the truth. It is only sex to me.
GIRL: Why dont you want to be with me? Im attached to you now.
GUY: I could never be with a woman that I didnt have to earn. Hell, even a prostitute gets paid. Free samples are never worth buying. Line clicking...call ya back.
GIRL: Hello? Hello?
Ladies, if this is the only way the you think you can have an attachment with a guy PLEASE understand that its false and you will only be left with hurt, pain, and sorrow. Treat your body like you treat your new clothes...you keep them off the floor and dont loan them out. If a guy tells you that this is what he wants UNDERSTAND that he will NEVER be with you the way that you want. Be STILL, be PATIENT, be CHASTE, and WAIT for that man to buy the cow..... and not just drink your mik!
Tuesday, April 26, 2011
Sunday, April 24, 2011
WE ARE THE GREATEST INSPIRATION! LETS HAVE PRIDE IN WHO WE ARE!
The world has some terrible things to say about Black Women. We are beautiful and worthy of good treatment. This blog is never to belittle the black woman or any woman, but to uplift by first accepting the responsibility of creating our own happiness. We have to stop being our own enemies. This is wonderful song that shows just how beautiful we are.
Saturday, April 23, 2011
IF ALL MEN ARE DOGS.....WHAT DOES THAT MAKE US?
Ladies,
We have all been guilty of calling every man on Earth a dog. Yes, it is true men are known to do some of the most disgusting things. Im sure there are alot of woman upset, and rightfully so, due to cheating, abandonment, lies, emotional and physical abused and just being flat out used. These men are wrong....but what role as the woman in the relationship did we play?
We are playing ourselves. Right now instead of complaining we need to be accountable and realize that these men are only treating us how we allow them to treat us. First of all ladies, we are too quick to claim a man as our man. Just because you prematurely had sex with a guy does not guarantee an emotional attachment. It does not guarantee a relationship. It is so important that we allow a man to chase, court, and commit to us and prove that we are where they want to be. Ladies, we have become the ones that court, the ones that chase....a dog can smell fear and desperation and knows when he has the upper hand. Please believe that a man will play you accordingly to your standard.
How many times have you checked, cursed out, or went to blows with another woman about "your" man? Too many times, I know. Well to be honest if a man has never married you...he has never cheated on you. We cheat ourselves when we think a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is legally binding. When you two do your taxes you claim SINGLE! When you are single you are ONLY accountable to yourself. We are so busy attacking other women for something that isnt either woman's. It is not a man's fault if you allow yourself to believe shacking up is a marriage, or having a child is a marriage, or a measley sexual relationship is a marriage. To all the ladies that only want sex and can detach emotional this blog is not for you. (Although, you are only fooling yourself) If you are seeking a wholesome, happy true relationship and wish to end your bitter rants about men....I guarantee the truth will set you free. Here is an exercise to try and no one will know the truth facts but you.....ask yourself how many failed relationships have you had? This is not the time to point blame or play victim. How many sex partners have you had and how long did it take for them to receive your body? What did they have to do to win your "love"? Seriously answer those questions and begin to see the pattern of your own self destruction that could not possibly be blamed on all men. Ladies, if we want to be treated right we have to demand it of ourselves. We have to set the standard and the man will follow.
My mother used to tell me "Play P#ssy Get F@cked" and I would always think that she was nasty for saying that. But now I realize when we play victim, we get attacked. And when we lay ourselves out like little kittens that need desperately to be stroked will surely be stroked! But that doesnt mean you are going to get anything more. Sex does not and never will equate to love! We as women seeking for something the wrong way...putting the cart before the horse and not having the patience to wait. Let us learn to BE STILL and get to know who we are. Become whole within yourselves before you seek a mate, you have to be able to bring something to the table and baggage wont cut it.
Being a mother is a beautiful thing and an awesome responsibility. However, ladies that are complaining about "baby daddy" issues really need to check themselves. You did not have those babies by miraculous conception, so that means you are just as responsible for their creation as the father. The same man that you call broke, worthless, trifling and deadbeat is the same man (men for some of yall) that YOU let run up in you completely raw and then inject his semen in you. Did he have a career, car, or place to live when you allowed this? No, so why did you expect something different because you decided to have a child with him? Ladies, men that have children already and he didnt marry her or he doesnt see those children....do you think it was a good idea to procreate with someone who is showing you what they are about? You already know when you dealing with a dead beat way before he is a dead beat dad. Be accountable. There must be something about a man that treats a woman wrong because they are getting all they girls. Then these girls finally get over them only to go through the same thing with another future dead beat. We are not even going to talk about how women put the dudes over their own children....well not today.
So, you work, the lease is in your name, and you often give him money to make it through the week.So now you his momma...hmm. Ladies, not only are we shacking up and getting played.....we paying for it too! We claim to be these independent woman only to use our resources to take care of a grown man. Many, many excuses for this one. He getting on his feet, we got a kid, I love him, he would do it for me.....blah, blah, blah. Yes, it is ok to help out your mate but it is a big damn difference than helping yourself look like a fool. A man is meant to lead and care for a woman...not the other way around.
Finally, one man's trash is another man's treasure and vice versa. Ladies, how many times have you been dogged out by a dude and you stayed for years to come and ironically he left you for nagging him about being a dog.....then he suddenly meets a chic and treats her how you have always wanted to be treated. Maybe even marries her. So was this dog reformed or was this dog really a dog to start? A man will treat you exactly how you to tell him to. You tell him you are a slut..slut treatment, needy and desperate...needy and desperate treatment....independent and bitter.....that is how he will treat you. Well ladies, when he meets a woman that will not allow subpar treatment he will treat her accordingly...he will treat her good and not think twice about how he treating you because he believes you deserved.
This is all for now. Leave a comment. Thanks
We have all been guilty of calling every man on Earth a dog. Yes, it is true men are known to do some of the most disgusting things. Im sure there are alot of woman upset, and rightfully so, due to cheating, abandonment, lies, emotional and physical abused and just being flat out used. These men are wrong....but what role as the woman in the relationship did we play?
We are playing ourselves. Right now instead of complaining we need to be accountable and realize that these men are only treating us how we allow them to treat us. First of all ladies, we are too quick to claim a man as our man. Just because you prematurely had sex with a guy does not guarantee an emotional attachment. It does not guarantee a relationship. It is so important that we allow a man to chase, court, and commit to us and prove that we are where they want to be. Ladies, we have become the ones that court, the ones that chase....a dog can smell fear and desperation and knows when he has the upper hand. Please believe that a man will play you accordingly to your standard.
How many times have you checked, cursed out, or went to blows with another woman about "your" man? Too many times, I know. Well to be honest if a man has never married you...he has never cheated on you. We cheat ourselves when we think a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship is legally binding. When you two do your taxes you claim SINGLE! When you are single you are ONLY accountable to yourself. We are so busy attacking other women for something that isnt either woman's. It is not a man's fault if you allow yourself to believe shacking up is a marriage, or having a child is a marriage, or a measley sexual relationship is a marriage. To all the ladies that only want sex and can detach emotional this blog is not for you. (Although, you are only fooling yourself) If you are seeking a wholesome, happy true relationship and wish to end your bitter rants about men....I guarantee the truth will set you free. Here is an exercise to try and no one will know the truth facts but you.....ask yourself how many failed relationships have you had? This is not the time to point blame or play victim. How many sex partners have you had and how long did it take for them to receive your body? What did they have to do to win your "love"? Seriously answer those questions and begin to see the pattern of your own self destruction that could not possibly be blamed on all men. Ladies, if we want to be treated right we have to demand it of ourselves. We have to set the standard and the man will follow.
My mother used to tell me "Play P#ssy Get F@cked" and I would always think that she was nasty for saying that. But now I realize when we play victim, we get attacked. And when we lay ourselves out like little kittens that need desperately to be stroked will surely be stroked! But that doesnt mean you are going to get anything more. Sex does not and never will equate to love! We as women seeking for something the wrong way...putting the cart before the horse and not having the patience to wait. Let us learn to BE STILL and get to know who we are. Become whole within yourselves before you seek a mate, you have to be able to bring something to the table and baggage wont cut it.
Being a mother is a beautiful thing and an awesome responsibility. However, ladies that are complaining about "baby daddy" issues really need to check themselves. You did not have those babies by miraculous conception, so that means you are just as responsible for their creation as the father. The same man that you call broke, worthless, trifling and deadbeat is the same man (men for some of yall) that YOU let run up in you completely raw and then inject his semen in you. Did he have a career, car, or place to live when you allowed this? No, so why did you expect something different because you decided to have a child with him? Ladies, men that have children already and he didnt marry her or he doesnt see those children....do you think it was a good idea to procreate with someone who is showing you what they are about? You already know when you dealing with a dead beat way before he is a dead beat dad. Be accountable. There must be something about a man that treats a woman wrong because they are getting all they girls. Then these girls finally get over them only to go through the same thing with another future dead beat. We are not even going to talk about how women put the dudes over their own children....well not today.
So, you work, the lease is in your name, and you often give him money to make it through the week.So now you his momma...hmm. Ladies, not only are we shacking up and getting played.....we paying for it too! We claim to be these independent woman only to use our resources to take care of a grown man. Many, many excuses for this one. He getting on his feet, we got a kid, I love him, he would do it for me.....blah, blah, blah. Yes, it is ok to help out your mate but it is a big damn difference than helping yourself look like a fool. A man is meant to lead and care for a woman...not the other way around.
Finally, one man's trash is another man's treasure and vice versa. Ladies, how many times have you been dogged out by a dude and you stayed for years to come and ironically he left you for nagging him about being a dog.....then he suddenly meets a chic and treats her how you have always wanted to be treated. Maybe even marries her. So was this dog reformed or was this dog really a dog to start? A man will treat you exactly how you to tell him to. You tell him you are a slut..slut treatment, needy and desperate...needy and desperate treatment....independent and bitter.....that is how he will treat you. Well ladies, when he meets a woman that will not allow subpar treatment he will treat her accordingly...he will treat her good and not think twice about how he treating you because he believes you deserved.
This is all for now. Leave a comment. Thanks
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